‘Luxury is not measured by material possessions, but by love and pure joy. These two things elevate life from the mundane to the luxurious.’
The past weekend I found myself in one of the most beautiful settings in the world. The haven that is Franschoek: the occasion, a wedding that will live in my memory forever. There are three reasons of this:
- South Africa offers some of the most beautiful wedding venues in the world. Nature provides the backdrop, be it in the bush, in the vineyards, on the beach … each spectacular, unique. I was reminded of this. This is why I love doing events and weddings here.
- The wedding was one long awaited. Two souls who have been together for a long time, the bride converting to Judaism to prove her love, a gesture so great, the occasion was sweeter for it.
- A reunion of lifelong friends. Literally lifelong as I am part of a group of exceptional women who have stayed friends since birth. Fifty odd years of commitment and joy to each other. And we celebrated this. We have led extraordinary lives, times uneasy, times fraught with the living of it, but never without each other’s undying support. I count myself blessed to have a sisterhood unlike any other.
As the sun clipped the top of the Helderberg mountains, turning the landscape a romantic hue of pink, love and joy were tangible for all to succumb to and revel in. We cried in our love for the couple, Tamsin and Jarryd, tears of joy as we witnessed their devotion, depth of religion, traditions, uninhibited joy.
Which reminded me: we have to plan for joy.
In the daily grind, we plod, through the routines, the schedules, the diary filled with what to do. We become blasé to that feeling of giddiness, of exultation, of romance in our lives. Guilty on that score when things seems dull and ugly. So we must make the effort, we must plan for joy. In the smallest of occasions, in the grandest of celebration, we must plan to make that moment, as it was for me, a day to remember. The event planning, the months of work, will be worth it, no matter how small the celebration, make it unforgettable and purposeful. Fill your life with flowers, with small gifts for others, put thought into making others happy. Plan for joy.
Then came the interesting comment. ‘You are very brave to attend this wedding on your own.’
I must admit, since I became ‘on my own’, I have avoided weddings and special occasions, for this very reason. My new, single status seemed ‘without the plus one’ and we know how that feels. I pondered for awhile and then I said:
‘I still find myself in that luxurious state of love and unending romance. I find myself exactly where I want to be.’
Let’s just say, I planned for joy, and I found it.
Note to self. Sometimes you have to make a plan to find joy, it needs some commitment but the rewards are unending.
Are you planning for joy?
PS whilst I was indulging in romance, love and joy in South Africa, my children were celebrating Halloween in London – with planned joy. Divine! Nothing like an occasion to celebrate life xxx
Images: Chatz wedding, Tasha Seccombe, Fleur le Cordeur
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