‘Pardon Mademoiselle Chanel, avez-vous une grille-pain?
Before you think there were no toasters around back then, there were, developed in the late 1890’s in fact. And I stood here with my toaster a few minutes ago, thinking … do I really need you anymore? Such is the packing of self – in more ways than one.
When one is about to box up your life, once again in my case, and relegate it to storage, which is a costly endeavour, one tends to scrutinise every item in terms of ‘do I really need this?’ We all know about the accumulation monster – mine is intrepid and has no limit. Where did all this stuff come from!
The life gets smaller and smaller. Has nothing to do with age – I am not one of those who goes ‘ah getting older etc, etc’ I loathe the giving in to age simply because another candle has appeared. In many ways, it gets more exciting, exact. Handbag has gone from the ‘everything but the kitchen sink’ and all the maybe’s you need when children are small, to the functional cross-over from Guess that contains the wallet, diary and keys. Liberating and far less cause for harassing fellow passengers on the tube.
So to the packing. I am going to discard all that no longer serves the new life I am planning, which could well be directionless at present, but easy to store and recover when needed. So what to pack, and why Chanel?
More like a changing of attitudes. I was of one order, from one origin and so the collectables suited. Work hard at school, get a degree, get married, have children and the proverbial picket fence home. Had everything that went with it. Boom came next. For years I continued to carry the Albatross of past life along; the memories of dinner services, old Christmas trees, enough framed photographs to cover every surface, coffee table books, medicine in case and of course the clothes that one day, on a dream day, I would still fit into. Oceans of luggage.
Also, oceans of thinking everyone else was doing the same. Can I say that I wondered at those women who chose never to marry, or have children? Women that worked since they were fifteen and do so still? Some never other than renting, never owning a car, being on the PTA or holidaying at the beach? It was coming to London, and Europe that all these gorgeous women became part of my world, opened my mind to individuals other than me … and, how to put this, now that my world is more akin to theirs, the stuff of past life needs clipping.
So I thought of Chanel. I refer to her on a tour I give. Success after a severe beginning. Basics grew to belief. It’s wonderful that she could re-create from nothing, and an inspiration.
‘My life did not please me, so I created my life.’
At present, my life does not please me. So I am creating a new one.
And the toaster does not fit the brief. As a child, no vegetables but loaves of bread. No longer. Sugar too. Don’t do the dinner parties anymore, so why hang onto the ice bucket and tablecloths, baking trays (can count a dozen) only taking up space. Unused martini glasses in case James Bond popped in. Mouldy Christmas tree in the damp garage. Mother’s clothes packed in grief, to hold and talk to. Coffee table books, outdated cookbooks and enough silverware to please a Medieval feast? Know what I am doing?
Photographs of all above when used and enjoyed are enough. Tables groaning with food, friends around tables, children decorating – have them all and so the actual articles no longer suffice. Good times still, just going to do it a little differently. Going to acquire new memories, with a slender inventory and a new resolve.
And so the lady thinks again …
Style does not need a million pots and pans. True living no longer requires post Christmas cards, twenty unused note pads, linen from era dot and cookie jars without cookies (re no sugar). Thank goodness for charity shops around here, they are on the receiving end of a gorgeous time.
What will I keep? A single, something Silver Streeter, will need only the photograph albums, some pretty cups and saucers, excellent wine glasses and a multitude of pencils. These are for drawing and setting up the new enterprise. Don’t need medicine, or a recipe for jam. dog bowls (no more dogs) or that Jenni Button suit circa 2007. Actually, may keep the suit, just in case the lack of bread and sugar will get me back into it sometime…
So that is what goes. And what next?
Sexy, new linen to slide into.
Fresh, hedonistic towels.
Totally new make up and beauty products.
New lingerie to suit the no sugar, no carbs, new body.
New business, finally, to suit the needs of this woman.
New playlist. Face it, I need music to live by, to strut and be empowered by. Think I will keep some of the old songs … they are what I am. They are the ones I love forever …
Keeping the things that I love the most. Letting go of things I love but no longer fit the new brand. Letting go of things that don’t fit anymore but acquire those that fit the new experience. And Chanel, if you could have the fabulous life, perhaps without the toaster, I am converted.
So, what are you going to let go of, to create the new, fabulous life before you? Let me know.
Images: red on line, biography